On Monday night, Jeremy and I (along with probably several thousand people) watched the season premiere of Jon and Kate Plus 8 on TLC. As a minister and a counselor, Jeremy and I dissected their relationship and came to the conclusion, that Jon and Kate just need to communicate! Each had a lot to say but they did not say it to each other.
In a relationship, any relationship.. communication is key. Often, in friendships and relationships with mothers, aunts, and significant others, we neglect to acknowledge that there is a problem. Or we recognize the problem and either sweep it under the rug or fail to communicate in an effective way.
So, I've begun to look at communication like eating. It's crucial to life!! If we don't eat, we get angry, cranky, tired and rude. If we don't communicate, we find ourselves resenting others, ourselves, angry (and usually unsure why) and fail to see how this lack of communication is affecting not only ourselves but those that surround us. And, don't say that you are ok with not speaking to this person anymore, if an argument or disagreement occurs. That's one, not of God and two, a lie! Apparently, if you had a miscommunication with someone that was close to you and you are upset over the situation, the person obviously means something to your life!
I say this to say, talk.. open up, be tactful and respectful in what you have to say, but talk!! And, you can even write it down, text or email yourself so you know what you want to say and practice how to say it. BUT.. talk about the situation! If you find yourself unable to talk, the bible does speak about a mediator. Find someone that you both trust to help cease the conflict.
Jon and Kate showed me the importance of communicating when I'm disappointed and the joy in talking when I'm happy.
So, I challenge you to talk! You never want the sun to go down when you're angry. (Ephesians 4:26.)
Signing Off,
~Mrs. G
Ephesians 4:26.. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
